A friend drew my attention to this obituary in the weekend paper. I’ve copied the text below, omitting the names of relatives and friends but, since this is a public record, leaving the writer’s identity intact. May we all live our illness and dying with eyes and hearts wide open.
Kathryn Ann Gaudry, FCPA, FCGA (nee Senez)
Oct 22, 1955 – May 4, 2017
“Well everyone, I did it. I finally beat the cancer. Too bad I had to die to do it.
I passed in the comfort of and with the eternal love of my beloved husband . . . and nieces & nephews and cousins.
I’ve had a wonderful life with the amazing good fortune to have had so many deep and enriching friendships. If my life had to be short, I’m so glad it was filled with all of you. Thank you forever to . . . and so many more. I love you all so much.
At my request, there will be no service. Instead, just do what you would do with me, or plant a flower, or plant a tree.”
May I suggest you begin drafting your obituary today. Find paper and pen and write the first line only. Speak from the heart. More will come later. The alternative, I fear, is to leave the task to a loved-one who’ll have plenty on their plate the day you die.
What do you think?